Anonymous wrote:OP here- We went away for the weekend and had the talk (no sex yet!!) and we are going to try things again. We are exclusive. Seeing him next weekend

Thanks for all the advice!!!

Anonymous wrote:OP here- Yes, Wharton and it was really hard. I pretty much cried my entire last year. I don't want to say anything just yet because I'm worried he's going to be scared away. But I don't sleep around, so obviously a relationship status will have to be discussed before any sex happens. I was just wondering if this is typical behavior for guys who have been hurt? I'm not guarded at all and don't understand why we can't just go back to where we were.

Anonymous wrote:OP here- We went away for the weekend and had the talk (no sex yet!!) and we are going to try things again. We are exclusive. Seeing him next weekend

Thanks for all the advice!!!

Anonymous wrote:What happened,OP?

FWIW, I can understand him being guarded. What happens if you have/get a super stressful job and close down on him again? I get stress - went to law school and worked in a big law firm doing litigation- but I never dumped my then-boyfriend/now-husband. So, even if it was very difficult for you (which I don't doubt), he might wonder how you would be able to prioritize or at least not terminate a relationship in the future. That can be emotionally scary.

I hope you both end up in a good place, whatever that may entail.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I did love him and still do. I just really had to focus on school, because I was feeling overwhelmed and worried I wasn't going to graduate. I had to put all my attention towards my degree and didn't even date anyone else until I graduated. After that I moved to DC and figured it was too late, so I tried to stay friends. He's very sensitive and loving and I know I hurt him. I've said I'm sorry and have tried to do everything I can to show him that I am sorry. I've been really patient with him, because he said he's really guarded and not willing to let down his walls yet. But I don't know if that's just his say if saying he wants yo casually date others just not that into me? Or maybe he just wants ex-sex? Things have gotten flirty over text... When we dated before he was so into me right away, always calling and texting non stop. Now I just kind of hear from him once a week or other times like 50 texts a day, then nothing for a week. It's like an elastic band!! Anyways I just wanted to know if this is how people really act when they're guarded or if I'm wasting my time?? It's going to be hard to go away for the weekend together and not have anything happen physically, but if that's just going to scare him away then I really don't want to have sex with him. Any other guy I would be so outta here and not put up with his issues, but I feel like maybe the issues are kind of my fault, and I'm trying to be understanding.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I did love him and still do. I just really had to focus on school, because I was feeling overwhelmed and worried I wasn't going to graduate. I had to put all my attention towards my degree and didn't even date anyone else until I graduated. After that I moved to DC and figured it was too late, so I tried to stay friends. He's very sensitive and loving and I know I hurt him. I've said I'm sorry and have tried to do everything I can to show him that I am sorry. I've been really patient with him, because he said he's really guarded and not willing to let down his walls yet. But I don't know if that's just his say if saying he wants yo casually date others just not that into me? Or maybe he just wants ex-sex? Things have gotten flirty over text... When we dated before he was so into me right away, always calling and texting non stop. Now I just kind of hear from him once a week or other times like 50 texts a day, then nothing for a week. It's like an elastic band!! Anyways I just wanted to know if this is how people really act when they're guarded or if I'm wasting my time?? It's going to be hard to go away for the weekend together and not have anything happen physically, but if that's just going to scare him away then I really don't want to have sex with him. Any other guy I would be so outta here and not put up with his issues, but I feel like maybe the issues are kind of my fault, and I'm trying to be understanding.

Anonymous wrote:Uh...Why did someone post a picture of Corey Monteith on here? Am I missing something....??!

I have a question OP. Why did you break up w/him if you do not mind me asking?

Anyway, I think he is being so guarded is because since you broke up w/him before, he is just being "careful" this time around and doesn't want to get his heart broken which is understandable. So he probably won't be in any big rush to jump into anything exclusive for awhile.

However since you both are going away for the weekend, I am assuming you both will be staying in the same room and if that is indeed the case, then it is assumed that you both will be sleeping together finally.