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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not about creating hardships, it's about growing up. I want my children to have part time jobs because I think there is great value in them. Responsibility, hard work, team work, etc. It's a learning experience. I also think it is valuable for children of relative privilege to have experience working in lower skill jobs. IME, it builds appreciation for the hard work that people do and fosters respect and empathy.

I also believe strongly that there is value in learning to make do, hold off on making purchases, delay gratification. To learn to budget time and money wisely.

There may be many ways for kids to learn these skills/lessons, but one of the best ways I know is to be given some responsibility for one's own care and feeding. [b]I don't believe that college should be an extension of childhood but rather the start of adulthood.[/b] It's the perfect time to start being in charge of one of the most essential life skills--the ability to take care of yourself.

My kids know that we are here to help out with any problems they can't solve on their own. But they also know that we are confident in their abilities to handle most of the day to day issues that arise. And they also know better than to think I'm going to pay for the beer. :shock:[/quote]

I agree. College is NOT an extension of childhood. That's why they're living on their own without Mommy and Daddy's rules and curfews. They'll have to make decisions such as party vs. study on their own without Mommy and Daddy's intervention. They'll have to troubleshoot their own problems, learn to live with and around people from various backgrounds, cultures, etc. College is a TRANSITION into adulthood. After that experience, they should be able to work with others in the workplace, learn how to make wise decisions for themselves, engage in responsible behavior, etc.

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PS: Meant to add that providing financial support will not prevent your child from growing and maturing. In addition to growing up w/o Mommy and Daddy's watchful eye, they're studying for long hours and preparing for their futures. How in the world parents can be okay with their children working part-time in addition to that is beyond me.

If you can't support them that's one thing. But to make a willful decision to make your children struggle in the name of 'growing up' is ridiculous to me.[/quote]

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