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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP what exactly is their issue with your wife? If they don't like her just because she is from a different culture, it is plain stupid and they need to get over it. 
 you shouldn't have to choose btw your parents nd wife. Your wife needs to understand and accept them as well. Breaking ties with family is stupid, self centered & not easy as people make it out to be. There can be a happy medium but it will take time and patience. Be steady when it comes to your wife but loving and patient with your parents as well, even if they do not respond the way you would like them to. [b]They will come around eventually.[/b] [/quote]

No they won't. They have demonstrated for years that they are to come first. They have cut off their own child and his children because the situation is unsatisfactory to them. They told him "goodbye"

This isn't a situation that a sit-down and some hugs all around are going to fix. Patience from OP? He has been [too] patient with their nonsense since before this marriage, and it sounds like throughout his dating history.

OP needs to prioritize what needs his attention. #1 his own wife and children. His marriage is in crisis. [/quote]

So parents are like toilet tissue that you just use and throw? Did OP just fall out of a fountain? Don't forget that his parents had to strive and make sacrifices for OP do become who he is today. the least he can do is maintain a good relationship with them in their old age.  Agreed their ideas are antiquated, but asking him to cutoff all ties with his parents is ridiculous. If divorce and disowning people is the only way to work through issues, we are a messed up society.
   OP has to put his ego aside and work with his parents separately. [/quote]

You need to finally take a serious stand against your parents and their awful behavior and manipulations.
You literally needs to say, as my father said to his manipulative mother at a large holiday dinner in front of everyone: "I will not stand for how you treat my wife, it is despicable and wrong. It is disrespectful to her and to me.  I love her and if you do any of this (mean comments) my family and I will not be corresponding with you in any way, shape or form." Then he never truly trusted them again, but the holiday encounters continued and were OK.  On the car ride home he apologized to my brother and I "that we had to see that, but it was necessary."

I can't believe you haven't done this before this low, low point.

The most major decision you make is who you CHOOSE to marry.  You don't choose your parents or your siblings. You choose your spouse.  time to start acting like that. [/quote]

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