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[quote=Anonymous]There is a great book called "The Hoarder in You," by one of the psychologists on the Hoarders TV show. She sees hoarding as a spectrum, from people who don't keep anything to the really serious Hoarders you see on TV. Of course, 99.9% of us fall somewhere in between those two extremes. Either way, there are certain common attitudes toward stuff and keeping stuff that she does a great job of explaining. Eg, your husband may have kept his cap and gown because it represents a big accomplishment in his life and he sees throwing it away as negating the accomplishment. Or he may intend to fix the broken microwave. The reasons may not make "logical" sense, but there's probably a sense and logic in HIS mind. The book shows how to counteract some of those faulty beliefs. It also talks about the role of psychological disorders like depression and OCD, and counteracts any idea that hoarders look a certain way or are necessarily lazy (in fact many are perfectionists who are overwhelmed by making messy reality match their perfect vision). I'm not doing a great job of describing, but really I recommend the book very highly. Even if you don't have a full-on hoarder in the family, the discussion of different attitudes toward "stuff" was interesting. [/quote]

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