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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yup AA mom here.  I do not spank my DCs but I do not tolerate bad behavior in public.  I am all fun and games to a point but they know there is a line. Hitting, being rude to adults falling out on the ground are all things they have done [b]once or twice[/b].  I think that kids know what an adult will tolerate. When one of DC fell out on the floor in a tantrum at a birthday party (without cause) it was the nuclear option the first time. We left. No yelling, etc. we just left. I don't negotiate with terrorists :-)

To be fair, in private, I am a little more lenient. But I am always thinking about the lack of slack AA kids get in the world so my standards have to be high.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's more a cultural or regional thing. White southerners are far stricter and hold their kids to higher standards of decorum to NE white people. They are more likely to spank their kids. I grew up in both regions and as a kid noticed a huge difference. African Americans tend to have southern roots. It's the same culture in many ways.

I'm not in favor of hitting kids in any way. But I do think a lot of times African American kids are nicer to their elders than white kids in this city. Even putting aside spanking, I think African American parents are just not as likely to put up with insolence, poor behavior, rolling eyes, etc.

And I'm white, FYI.[/quote]

I agree. This has been my (anecdotal) experience as well. I am Asian.

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Another AA parent here.  I am the same way as the other AA parent about behavior in public.  Honestly, I am very sensitive to the stereotype (sometimes perpetuated here in DCUM) that people have about AA children.  So my kids know how Mommy gets down if they want to act up in public. We cease whatever activity and we head home - no tolerance.  PP is right on - kid learn early on what the can get away with and with whom[/quote]

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