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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for the helpful replies and I agree I probably need to talk to a therapist to work through this. My child is not 7 - he is almost 12 - but still very young in the big scheme of life. And while I realize he could be very different some day, I do think you can tell a lot already. I have always been very sharp and driven and I've always been drawn to that same type with regard to my spouse and friends. So it is hard for me to connect with my child or admire him. But I really really do love him and I want to be a better parent to him. This has been the most shameful post I've ever typed. [/quote]

Don't add guilt to your list, OP!

It is normal - and healthy - to grieve the loss of something or someone. Let that process develop within yourself, but always do your best to project confidence in his abilities.

I constantly have to make adjustments to my expectations for my GT/LD son, who frustrates the dickens out of me. I love him so much, yet he makes me crazy, because he can make highly intelligent remarks and get perfect grades one week and then get all wrong answers and seem apathetic the next. DH and I have no idea what the future holds for him, since his performance is so unequal. 
Loving him for who he is? Well, who is he??? For some children, this can be really hard to pinpoint. I am his mother, I know him best in the world, and yet I don't know him very much at all... Parenting my other children is so much easier!

Don't worry too much, OP. You don't have to be a perfect parent, just a good-enough parent. From one type A, perfectionist personality to another, I know that is tough to hear :-) 
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