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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. To 21.36. I mentioned what I was asking for. I guess you skimmed through and didn't have patience to read, which is ok.  Posting on an anonymous forum gives me a chance to see and compare what others think, gain distance or reassurance in what I think. It also gives me a chance to vent.

I know most of you posting here do not have perfect marriages, there are some that have infidelity, some that have financial issues, some that have sickness, infertility, etc. there are ones that would leave a spouse for any of those reasons, and some of them choose to go through and fight. For right now I do realize that my DH is abusive but I choose to fight. Yes, I do realize that I may not be sparing my children and shielding them from everything, but it's hard to believe it's even possible to shield your children from everything anyway.

It easy to jump and say leave, divorce, but what about the aftermath? What about the feelings you still have? Custody battle? [/quote]

You are a coward, and there is no prize for staying in a bad marriage when you have children. It's like fighting the emergency c-section when your baby's life in is danger - because you really wanted to have a natural childbirth. The only prize is a HEALTHY BABY in this sorry situation.

You are in the same kind of circumstances now. You need to make the best choice for your kids, and it's not staying in a marriage with a verbally abusive man because you're worried about your feelings. As for a custody battle, forget it. Unless he's an ax murderer, you will get joint custody, so forget a custody battle. It will never happen in DC, MD, or VA.

You need to get into intensive therapy and work on your self-esteem, and your values, and your codependency issues. You married him, you made the mistake. Now fix it and stop putting your kids in the middle.

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