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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm Indian and this is very usual in our culture. I hate it! So rude. It means, don't bring a gift to this wedding, just a check in an envelope. Awful!

At the same time, I think in India, it's just acceptable etiquette-wise, (we want money not stuff, just telling ya, NBD) so a couple might not mean it to be offensive the way we Americans might take it. However if you are raised in the States you have no excuse for that crap![/quote]

I have seen this in Chinese and Korean weddings as well.  I see no reason that money should not be given to the couple. How is that different from a gift registry? And what if you are the last person who goes to buy stuff from the registry - you are left with $500 cubist ashtray or 2 hand towels and 5 teaspoons left to buy. I find that tacky.

Here is another cultural thing. If you are an Indian, it is probably your parents who are paying for the entire wedding. A careful note will be made of which guest gave what amount of money.  Not only for the purpose of sending thank you cards, but because the very same amount will be given from your parents side when their kids will get married.

Gift giving in Indian culture has much deeper meaning. Give less than what someone gave to you and it becomes common knowledge.  There are many etiquette around gift giving. For example, I will take money from some one who is elder to me, but I will not give them a money gift. I will give that to their kids or grand-kids.  Money gift is returned, but not to the older generation but the younger one. Married couples will gift to unmarried cousins etc.  Unmarried younger siblings can gift to nieces and nephews.

Just saying ...[/quote]

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