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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your post makes me very sad.  Maybe you need to step back and look at your comments about her.  My mom did the same thing you did.  My sibling was the "smart" one.. the one who would succeed and I would not amount to much.  She got sent to the ivy and I went to a small private school (at my mom's insistence that I hated and then transferred to a large university that I loved).  My mom pegged me as not doing much as school was a struggle.  She helped some, but if she had really focused on my needs instead of her wishes it would have helped.  Needless to say, I found a major I liked, did very well in college and graduate school.  Came out, got good jobs (in a low paying field but that is what I choose), met and married an amazing husband and we have a terrific kid.  You don't know what special needs is till you have one.  My child is true special needs so I stayed home with him to make sure he gets everything he needs in terms of therapy and attention.  Consider your daughter a blessing and don't rule out her potential.  If she were in the right school with the right supports, she may thrive.  Online school without a lot of help is not the best choice for someone struggling.  She needs a lot of hands on/showing rather than lecturing and memorizing.  I'd look at one of the social services/helping professions.  Many require papers, not tests for the specific classes.  On the other hand, my sibling did well at her ivy league but took an easy/well paying job in the field (9-5 where most work twice that much) and has never married - a few long term relationships and is not happy at all without marriage or a child.  So, in the end, which is better?  Now I have a great husband who makes enough where we live comfortably and not lavishly and my mom denies all the things she said about me after my husband called her on it and we even walked out of a holiday meal after she/sibling was being so vicious about it.

Look at her current school choice, look at getting more supportive services and change your attitude.[/quote]

Are you joking? My daughter isn't "true special needs"? I spend about 40 percent of my life in a hospital room with her.  WTF??? yeah, I have no clue what having a special needs kid is like, you're right.   Im glad your kid is "more special needs than my kid".  You're a jerk.

Good lord, I never said she wouldn't amount to much, and I certainly don't think it.  I have said many times, that she WILL be fully self supportive and that she has gifts OTHER than academics which I know will make her successful.  And I have spent the past 10 plus years going to over 65 IEP meetings, I have emptied out my 401(k) plan and savings to hire educational advocates, only to then have to pull her out and spend thousands every year on schooling to help my kid...but I am just like your mom who didn't focus on your needs? Screw you, frankly.  You have no clue what I have done for my kid. I have sacrificed just about everything in my life for this kid.  The ones who suffer, if any of my kids, are my other children who don't get nearly the time and focus as my SN kid does.

Ugh, seriously, I SO didn't need those comments today.  I hope you feel better now that you vented to me and got some of your mommy issues out of your system.

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