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[quote=Anonymous]OP, the most important thing, IMO, is that you don't seem to be pushing your daughter to be someone she's not. As a teacher, I can't tell you the number of students I've had whose very high-achieving parents wouldn't/couldn't accept their child might be average. In fact, I had a father say that to me..."So, you're telling me my son is average," with a look of utter disdain on his face, after I told him that his son struggled to write a complete paragraph, but was social and well-liked by his peers.

On the worrisome side, you seem to be cutting off options for your DD by either assuming she can't do the job (corporate world) or the job doesn't pay enough to meet your standards. 50K is not going to keep her in high fashion and a penthouse, but plenty of people do just fine on 50k. It's not living in poverty.

Why not send her to college, see how it goes, and let her figure it out (with a little bit of guidance from you). Is there a subject she enjoys more than others, even art or music? Maybe she'll discover her passion while in college by taking new classes on topics she hasn't even considered at this point. For example, if she enjoys art she could become a graphic designer, which would be in a corporate setting but draws on a different skills et than, say, lawyer. She still needs to learn to organize/manage her work, but those are skills you can help her develop now, and should be developing in preparation for college. As an aside, have you considered two years at the local community college, followed by two years away? Or a PG year? I do believe though that there is a college for everyone and PPs had lots of good suggestions for places to look. Also recommend Manhattanville, Pace University, Quinnipiac, and Marist.

As for your request for stories, my two cousins have ADHD. One had a ton of support in high school, went away to college, and is now successfully employed in the hospitality industry. The other also suffered from social anxiety and his parents pushed him to go away for college bc that's what is "done" in our family. It was an unmitigated disaster, he only lasted one semester, bounced around for awhile and ended up in college part time while living at home and working. Took him six years to graduate but now a successful salesman at a BMW dealership (he loves cars, while in college saved all his money for a trip to the BMW factory in Germany). Last, my other cousin, a female, is in the pretty but not so smart category. She does really well in communications for a Wall Street company.[/quote]

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