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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think the OP is trying to make anyone jealous. I do think it's totally reasonable that someone who's dating you should have the expectation that at some point, your relationship will be public. There are not a lot of people who would be satisfied to be in a secret relationship. If you are trying to conceal any evidence of being in a relationship or even starting a relationship so that your ex-husband doesn't get mad about it, I can understand why a person might want to move on.

If you want to find a new partner, you need to be up front about doing that. I fully understand the income issues as I do not make that much more than you, but at some point, you are going to need to figure out a way to support yourself, rather than relying on your controlling, manipulative ex-husband for financial assistance that he believes allows him to choose your friends and activities for you.

Since you need specifics, here are mine:

1. change your email password to something that he'll never guess. There are guidelines you can look at for selecting a highly secure password. Use them.
2. get your own cell phone plan. You can keep your number. There are often introductory specials. There are prepaid phones. 
3. make a point of going to your child's events on your own or with a friend. Have plans with non-threatening friends either immediately before or after the events, and tell him that you have plans. If he pushes, in the beginning, you can tell him, Oh, I'm meeting Karen for lunch or whatever. Later, do not provide details even if he asks for them. Some good phrases: "I'd rather not discuss my personal life" and "Let's focus on DC's event".
4. What do you do for a living? Try to figure out ways to increase your income so that you can depend on your ex less for financial assistance. If this means that you take a part time job for a while in order to save some money, then that's what it means. [/quote]

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