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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seriously people, why not diagnose every kid who gets bored with ADD/ADHD.

What are the rewards/punishments for getting/not getting done chores, etc.  do you stick to it for over a month 100%. If not, it didn't sink in yet.

Tell him to clean his room. Give him a timer with 20min. If he gets it done, he gets x. If he doesn't get it done he loses y. Stick to it, be a parent. Don't coddle, don't negotiate. If the kid has nothing. Loss of sports, loss of electronics, loss of tv, they will refocus on what had to be done. If not then why bother?  I HATE laundry. If I didn't have to do it and it still got done anyway, why would I try to do it?

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You know nothing about ADHD.  Asking a kid with ADHD to work faster or to be more focused is like asking a kid in wheelchair to run faster.  Many kids with ADHD are essentially missing brain functions that allow them to act according to rewards/incentives in the way you suggest.  All you would accomplish is to make kids (who are already criticized on a constant basis) feel worse about themselves and to tune you out even more.  [/quote]

OP doesn't think her child has it. It is well known, it is over diagnosed. Tweens are like this all the time. They aren't perfect, hormones take over, their priorities are not to keep their room clean, do HW and such. But parents these days are so quick to label their child with something instead of just working a little harder and realize kids aren't perfect.  So OP doesn't need all the moms chiming in with "it is ADD, must be, my kid has it!"  It is like you are all so excited to add more to to your group. [/quote]

I agree that it is over diagnosed.  Some of us, however, have put our kids through the most comprehensive testing available to get to the root causes of our kids' struggles.  In doing so, we get a diagnosis.  Or not.  But either way, we are not "quick to label" our children.  On the contrary, we take the slowest, most careful and thorough route possible.

From that standpoint, I agree with the PP who said you do not know what you are talking about.[/quote]

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