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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think boys are predators at all but there is a lot of social pressure on them to make the first move and there is social pressure on them to be sexual. Young boys are socially conditioned and as they go through puberty physiologically aroused to think about sex. part of fitting in as a boy in middle school is talking about sex. They are curious about porn, about sex, about girls body parts, about arousal. They have testosterone starting to increase and are getting erections and are starting to masturbate and to be sexual beings. So middle school boys tells his friends he has a date and his friends start building up the expectations for what that means - will he kiss her? will he get aroused? etc...the talk focuses on the expectations being placed on him. Even though most of the boys may have not done really anything sexual, there is pressure to talk and act as though they know more and have done more than they have.

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Do you have, or have you ever had, a son who is 13 years old? If he went to the movies with a girl, would you expect him to jump her?[/quote]

No not at all, but I would be thinking his friends would be thinking that. I would hope that he would not in any way cave to peer pressure or feel like he should make some kind of move (hold her hand or kiss her) because that is expected of a him as a boy. But I know when he gets back to school friends are going to ask him about his big date - not if they had butterflies and gazed at the moonlight but if he got to kiss her or 'do' anything and he either has to lie and pretend he did or be honest and have them think he is lame for not even trying.

Pretty much most TV still puts the guy as being the one to make the moves, and that sometimes girls get bored or think the guy doesn't like them if they don't make a move. They are expected to the the leader / assertive one. Also if you look online- about 95% of the talk between boys in the 13ish to 16ish age group is about sex, mixed in with talk about video and computer games or sports.

For me I don't let my tweens date - takes the pressure off of them. They can just blame it on me being strict and they can avoid situations where they act in a way they aren't ready for or don't want to but do because of social pressure and expectations on them. [/quote]

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