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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH here:  this is a tough issue.  It is material information from a man's perspective, and as a result many women seem to choose to lie about it.  Then, when the truth comes out, it creates problems that likely would not have existed if she had been honest in the first place.  I have learned that my DW was less than truthful on this issue, and while I would not have cared at all had she been honest, it does make me wonder what else she chose to lie about.  [/quote]

Why is it "material from a man's perspective?" It's not really any of your business.[/quote]

All behavior about our partners is material.  The fact you want to hide it is a red flag.

What kind of relationship do you have with your husband where you withhold information?[/quote]

I don't want to hide anything. I have nothing to hide. I am in my 40s and my husband and I have been together since we were 15. We are each other's only partners. So nice try there.

But let's say things are different...my husband would not need an accounting of names, numbers, and positions. If we have sex and are compatible, if we have sex and are willing to give and receive and share fantasies, then what business is it how many people I might have slept with? And for me to know about his past, as well.

All it is is score keeping. And since you, or another pp,I'm not sure now, were clear that it is important from a MALE perceptive, the only relevance I can see is you wanting to find out if your wife had more partners than you, or an unacceptable number that somehow moves her out of wife category into whore category. Note that I find this repulsive.

There is no good reason to know.[/quote]

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