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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suspect it's because she has the "one-click" option along with the Amazon Prime.  When you one-click, it's a one-click, and the item goes to you immediately; it does not give you shipping options.  Sounds kind of obvious but if you do it all the time, you forget when it comes to sending someone a gift.

You do have 30 minutes to fix it, but you'd have to realize you blew it within that time frame, and know you have 30 minutes to fix it, and cancel that order and start all over.  So she probably didn't realize she blew it, or realized but didn't know she could fix it.  The worst interpretation is she realized but decided "oh, well, I'll let the old lady take the present when she comes."  Which is lame but not SO bad.

OP many many people are weird about gift-giving, and/or gift-getting, because it's some weird power thing.  To accept a gift gracefully you have to be one-down, which, if you are irritated with a person, is hard to be.  To give a gift you also have to risk being one-down because the receiver might not like your gift.  So it involves a tacit trust on both sides.  That's why it's so irritating to exchange gifts when you don't like or trust someone.  Or to exchange gifts with someone who has issues on the trust front.

People do all sorts of things to be weird about gifts.  They don't wrap--that's classic.  They leave the price tag on.  They make you come to their house to get it.  It's all power dynamics.[/quote]

Well put. It isn't the individual things your SIL does, it is something in the spirit of it/ your relationship to her. It sounds like you want her to be something she isn't -- namely a just in time present shipping auntie.[/quote]

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