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[quote=Anonymous]I just want to say that I'm glad this thread was ressurected.  My DH was self-employed but had to close his business over the summer.  The plan was for him to tkae some time off, get some much needed stuff done around the house and we'd revisit the job situation after the new year.  We can't afford for him to be unemployed for the long term but we both agreed he (we) needed him to be home for a while.  Well, much as OP described in her first post, he didn't seem to do much around the house. Him being home was supposed to lighten my load but I was doing the same amount of household work as I did before. I was/am very angry and resentful.  My DH is really a nice guy and we have a lot of love but love isn't enough.  I also need a partner.

A PP talked about her black hole of depression and ADD.  My DH suffers from both and I usually provide him a list of things to do each day.  The list is pretty mundane - things like have kids brush teeth, walk the dog, clean up the kitchen, etc.  Even with the list, he still wasn't able to complete the routine stuff much less the 'extra' stuff that needed done around the house.  When I read the PPs suggestion for a 'time grid' or activity log, it was like a eureka moment.  I talked to my DH about it and he agreed that it would be helpful.  I now my DH has a poor concept of time, doesn't estimate well how long something will take to do and he also gets sucked into the internet/TV. I'm hoping this activity log will help him with all of that.  Thanks so much for suggesting it.

Thanks, too, OP, for the update.  I'm glad to hear there's less stress in your life and hope you get through this year and your decisions with peace and calmness.  Hugs.[/quote]

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