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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - I probably should have clarified her age.  She's 7, almost 8.  She qualifies based on her NNAT score.

I'm really looking for additional resources and maybe some other kids her age that are "weird" like her.  While she has friends at school, she realizes that she's different and being called weird by the other kids is really starting to get to her.  I'd like her to know there are other kids out there like her and I thought this might be a place to start.  I'm not looking at it as a badge of honor or anything that I would even tell our friends about but just as a place to find some other kids her age that she can fit in with better academically.

Based on what is said on this board I'm not holding out any hope that APP, should she be accepted, will provide what she seems to need in a classroom setting.  Again, thinking this could be a place where she can identify with other kids like her.

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Is she on the spectrum? Girls are often high functioning, smart but a little socially odd, not as apparent as boys on the spectrum.[/quote]

Yes skip AAP. We main streamed our son who tested 2 standard deviations above what was required for AAP placement. he likes odyssey of the mind and other sports. AAP is not for outliers. Life is not a large pull-out class.  [b]If your DD doesn't learn how to get along with normal people she will struggle in life. Are the bosses the "book" smart people or the "other" smart people? (or frequently not even smart at all!).

I tell my son people aren't going to like him because he's smart, they are going to like him for being a good person.[/b] Find people to hang with that she likes. She'll find someone who can follow her non-linear thinking and other quirks. Have her learn to be a good friend before you start looking for smart friends to hang around with.[/quote]

Agree with this. People skills and learning be part of the village rather than an outlier outsider is even more important for those who are truly the outliers in life. [/quote]

OP here - while I agree with some of this I also have gotten other warnings from parents that have pushed their kids similar to my DD into being more mainstream and they've pretty much shut down.  She currently finds the world fascinating and I don't want to squash any enthusiasm she has in order to fit in.  We work with her on basic social skills and I'm comfortable where she's at but I'd still like her to be around other kids like herself so she realizes it's not a bad thing to embrace her gift.  She has tried several sports and while she's a normally active kid she's not made for team sports (she's really into rock climbing - I think because it's an individual and strategic physical activity).  So just like parents encourage kids to be a part of sports teams where they excel I just want the same for my DD in her area of "talent".[/quote]

14:35 here.  Please read my post.  At what point did I say to have your DD sign up for team sports?  Your child has to learn to get along in society. that does not mean team sports (in fact one could make the case that team sports really doesn't help in society!)

I've got an outlier, life sucks with an outlier. They've got to learn when to keep their mouths shut. Telling their teacher they are wrong will not get them anywhere. As a life long FX resident I've got friends (and siblings of friends) who were TJ grads and TJ drop outs. I know MIT post-doc grads who spent 2 days at TJ and then went back to their base high school.  I also know TJ grads who failed out of college because they couldn't cut-it when the world didn't revolve around their quirks.

Your job as a parent is to raise a good citizen, not a smart kid.  A good kid gets along with people. As a parent you need to stretch you child, make them learn to do things that are uncomfortable, so they can be better people. You have to teach your kid the rules of the world.  That involves learning how to tell the teacher she is wrong without making her look stupid (A lesson that gets harder in middle school for some kids).

I'm not a fan of AAP in fairfax.  Too much homework and parental involvement.  But, we did language immersion, so we aren't completely mainstreamed. (the language immersion does seem to pull AAP -ish parents, so we do hit the geek quota).  [/quote]

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