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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]http://proto-knowledge.blogspot.com/2011/01/asian-vs-western-parenting-styles-and.html[/quote]

""Asian" parents start with the premisse that their children's self-esteem will build up with improving performance. "Asian" parents believe that nothing is fun until you're good at it. To get good at anything you have to work hard, [b]and as children on their own often do not want to work, they override their preferences. [/b]"Asian" parents see the academic success of their children as the result of successful parenting, [b]and failure in school is therefore not the child's (or the school's) fault but the parent's.[/b] "Asian" parents can order their kids to get top grades. "Western" parents can only ask their kids to try their best. "

In my experience, the bolded parts are very true.  Asian kids aren't given the freedom other kids have because Asian parents believe they know best.  Secondly, a child bringing home an unacceptable grade is seen as a mistake by the parent, rather than a mistake of the child.  Therefore, the parents become much more concerned about addressing the problem and making sure it does not happen again.[/quote]

+1. To put it differently -- in (typical) Indian families it is all about working as hard as possible. If you can study for 30 min and get an A but for 3 hrs to get an A+, you are absolutely expected to put in the 3 hrs for the A+, even though there is little marginal difference in achievement. It is not about "trying your best" or an "A for effort" -- it's about being the absolute best in the class. I am Indian and was raised this way. I'm not saying it's perfect and it does lead to issues with feeling like nothing is ever enough, but all in all, it is not a bad way to raise kids and frankly, I see some "Western" families who could benefit from this approach.

My parents' view was -- go get that degree from an ivy and a certain baseline level of experience in your profession; if you end up not using that degree forever because something else appeals to you, fine, but you will always have it and no one can take that away.[/quote]

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