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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Because you keep referring to her as "this child".  It sounds cold and distant.[/b]  And, disciplining her is not the answer.  You may need to work with a psychologist or another professional to help you because you are not trained to figure it out.[/quote]

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"This child" as opposed to her other siblings. [/quote]

Out of 7 kids she is the only one with learning disabilities- in fact the only one not in gifted. I don't know how to deal with an average kid with learning disabilities. We have read books, talked to professionals and tried different ways of helping her. Old habits die hard. She has probably the sweetest disposition kids out of the 7 too. All her teachers consistently say they have never seen a kid try as hard as she does so it's not like we are dealing with a lazy or defiant kid.  Our problem is simply how do we deal with the repeated disobedience and organization issues.

The consensus seems that we are too heavy with punishment- but this comes after many warnings.  What do you all do when your children disobey?  Or is everyone "free range" and don't have rules per say?

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You said in an earlier post that you knew from when they were infants that one would always be more advanced than the other. That is troubling. First, there is no way that you can tell from two infants which will be more "advanced". It sounds like at least partially a self-fulfilling prophecy. Next, it sounds like "this child" is very advanced in terms of her effort towards things and her kindness. If she is trying to so hard, just keep focusing on that awesome quality. If she is kind, keep focusing on that awesome quality too. Frankly, these are the most important qualities. Kindness and trying hard will serve her throughout her life. I think you may need to back all the way off, and come at this from a completely different place. She shouldn't have lied, and she should have done her homework. But you need to be consistent on enforcing her routines and habits that help her be successful, and go easy on the rest. Easier said than done, i know. [/quote]

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