Reply to My ex is an ass!

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "My ex is an ass!"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes it's a paid session 8 weeks so it's not pay as you go. He was my ex partner (boyfriend) for 7 years. He just thinks he controls everything and what he says goes this is why we aren't together and I declined his proposal. [/quote]

So you never bothered to marry this "partner" of yours, after 7 years, and yet you went ahead and had a child with him. And now of course, you're separated, because "he is an ass." (your words) Yet you still think you have control over him, and his time with HIS child.

You sound like a real winner, OP. Please do yourself and your daughter a favor and get some therapy.[/quote]
+1 OP is an ass. And all of the smart ass comments like "Duh", etc... reflect that. OP, funny how you're a genius now, but you didn't flex any of that cerebral prowess when you making stupid decisions like having a kid out of wedlock with an "ass". He may be an ass, but you've one-upped him by being a dumb ass![/quote]

You know, if the OP had come to this forum when she was pregnant asking what she should do in her situation, she would have gotten a number of responses from people just like you suggesting that she build a life for the child, with or without the child's father being involved. If she'd come on this forum telling a story of "I got pregnant and so we got married and he's an ass", she would hear a lot of "Well, maybe you shouldn't have married him, then" responses from posters like you.

It sounds to me like the OP decided not to marry a man who wasn't a good partner. I think that decision would be that much harder if there was a child involved, and I think that having the child anyway, separating, and negotiating what sounds like a not awesome co-parenting relationship is a much more mature decision than many of the alternatives. She is taking responsibility for her pregnancy by having the child, and it sounds like her daughter has a relationship with her father, so by the usual standards of this smug-as-hell board for women who don't plan their entire lives with a slide rule, she's actually doing just fine. We're all allowed to vent about things that frustrate us.

As for the issue of activities, I would caution many of you about saying "Well, you should only put your child in activities that fall on your days" because it doesn't work that way.  The OP signed her child up for ONE activity (and mentioned another activity that sounds like it's concluded). That is hardly overscheduling. Weekend mornings are a pretty common time for activities like this one to occur, and while I agree that if the OP is constantly scheduling things for her ex to take her DD to it's a problem, it doesn't sound like that's what's going on. It sounds like he's blowing off an activity of her choosing that cannot be rescheduled for a more convenient time to go to an activity of his own choosing that could happen on any morning and then being a jerk to OP unnecessarily when she called to remind him. There are graceful ways to handle that phone call. It sounds like neither person on the phone chose any of those ways.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics