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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,
Ignore the posters saying you are being mean. maybe they too are lonely people who feel it's okay to intrude on others.  It's your family, it's your time.  [b]This is not controlling, it's called "boundaries" people.[/b]  OP, I would scoop up the  kids, tell your mom you'll see her when scheduled close the door and do your own thing.

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You guys and your b-s boundaries. This is her mother one is talking about. What is her mother doing that would be so disruptive to their lives? Both my parents drop by when they feel like it. They even have a garage door opener so that they can just come by when they feel like it. Our kids love them and they feel the same way.

And, FYI, I am not a lonely person. I am also not a self centered person. My parents raised me often at considerable sacrifice. I owe what I am today to them. They would still do anything for me and my siblings.

I do believe what goes around comes around and I wonder how those who feel there is no problem with restrictions on visits by parents will react when and if they are faced with similar restrictions on visits by their children.[/quote]

We're all happy for you that you have a relationship with your parents that is rewarding and mutually respectful.  Not everyone's experience of life/family/anything is identical to yours.  Get some perspective of GTFO.[/quote]

Not the PP to whom you responded but you are an idiot. Of course people have different life/family experiences.

The point is that unless there are major issues with a parent such as abuse, etc it is ridiculous to impose constraints on a mother or parent who is lonely. People like you are pathetic. One does not put parents out to pasture when they have outlived their usefulness. What is so difficult to understand about something so basic?[/quote]

Obviously, you do not understand my point.  You can agree in theory that people might have different experiences, but then suggest in the same post that there are only three types of families:  
Abusive, disfunctional families
Families who behave the way your family behaves
Familes who are "pathetic"

Can you not see how myopic this view is?

Your mother likes to drop by unannounced amd you like entertaining her on the spur-of-the-moment.  Bully for you.

OP's mother likes to drop by unnanounced and OP feels disrespected, stressed and violated when this happens.  In a mutually loving, respectful relationship, OP's strong emotional response to this action would make her loving, compassionate mother reconsider and they would work together to find a way for OP to feel comfortable and for her mother to visit.  Given that OP has made her preference on this clear and her mother feels that her inclination to drop by is more important than her daughter's well-being and happiness, OP is now entitled to try to draw boundaries in a more aggressive way without being told that she is an evil ungrateful shrew of a daughter.  Being in relationships means valuing that other people are allowed to respond to a stimulus in a way differently than you would.  [/quote]

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