Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"imagine 30 years from now, your kids posting this and feeling this way about you"
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but see that's just the thing. I can't imagine doing this to my own kids. I pray that in my old age I am mentally well enough to understand that while I am loved, they have their OWN LIVES. Yes, I hope to be a part of it, but I do not plan to jump into their daily schedule without checking in first.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a forum where most of the topics are started by people who have dysfunctional or problematical relationships.
Those who have harmonious relationships don't usually post here. The multitude of problems that people post about are by those in the minority. There are many, many couples who have wonderful relationships with their mothers and in-laws.
A topic like this one is really an outlier and should not be viewed as representative of what happens in most families. About all these sort of threads do for me is to be thankful that I have wonderful parents who are a positive influence in my life and that of my family.
Um, good for you?
Sorry, this was in the context of the person who made this comment:
"Whe people talk about Eastern and Western cultures, it's not about food or clothing. It's about things like this. What PP said would be so incomprehensible in many countries."
The discussion on this thread and others outlining endless conflict between other family members is hardly representative of most family relationships in the US.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a forum where most of the topics are started by people who have dysfunctional or problematical relationships.
Those who have harmonious relationships don't usually post here. The multitude of problems that people post about are by those in the minority. There are many, many couples who have wonderful relationships with their mothers and in-laws.
A topic like this one is really an outlier and should not be viewed as representative of what happens in most families. About all these sort of threads do for me is to be thankful that I have wonderful parents who are a positive influence in my life and that of my family.
Um, good for you?
Anonymous wrote:This is a forum where most of the topics are started by people who have dysfunctional or problematical relationships.
Those who have harmonious relationships don't usually post here. The multitude of problems that people post about are by those in the minority. There are many, many couples who have wonderful relationships with their mothers and in-laws.
A topic like this one is really an outlier and should not be viewed as representative of what happens in most families. About all these sort of threads do for me is to be thankful that I have wonderful parents who are a positive influence in my life and that of my family.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the big deal? So let her go play with the kids and go about whatever you were doing.
totally agree with pp.
Go on doing what you're doing and ask her to help you with the house.
Whe people talk about Eastern and Western cultures, it's not about food or clothing. It's about things like this.
What PP said would be so incomprehensible in many countries.
Anonymous wrote:My mother is dead. Can I have yours ? I would never be too busy for her.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP,
Ignore the posters saying you are being mean. maybe they too are lonely people who feel it's okay to intrude on others. It's your family, it's your time. This is not controlling, it's called "boundaries" people. OP, I would scoop up the kids, tell your mom you'll see her when scheduled close the door and do your own thing.
You guys and your b-s boundaries. This is her mother one is talking about. What is her mother doing that would be so disruptive to their lives? Both my parents drop by when they feel like it. They even have a garage door opener so that they can just come by when they feel like it. Our kids love them and they feel the same way.
And, FYI, I am not a lonely person. I am also not a self centered person. My parents raised me often at considerable sacrifice. I owe what I am today to them. They would still do anything for me and my siblings.
I do believe what goes around comes around and I wonder how those who feel there is no problem with restrictions on visits by parents will react when and if they are faced with similar restrictions on visits by their children.
We're all happy for you that you have a relationship with your parents that is rewarding and mutually respectful. Not everyone's experience of life/family/anything is identical to yours. Get some perspective of GTFO.
Not the PP to whom you responded but you are an idiot. Of course people have different life/family experiences.
The point is that unless there are major issues with a parent such as abuse, etc it is ridiculous to impose constraints on a mother or parent who is lonely. People like you are pathetic. One does not put parents out to pasture when they have outlived their usefulness. What is so difficult to understand about something so basic?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP,
Ignore the posters saying you are being mean. maybe they too are lonely people who feel it's okay to intrude on others. It's your family, it's your time. This is not controlling, it's called "boundaries" people. OP, I would scoop up the kids, tell your mom you'll see her when scheduled close the door and do your own thing.
You guys and your b-s boundaries. This is her mother one is talking about. What is her mother doing that would be so disruptive to their lives? Both my parents drop by when they feel like it. They even have a garage door opener so that they can just come by when they feel like it. Our kids love them and they feel the same way.
And, FYI, I am not a lonely person. I am also not a self centered person. My parents raised me often at considerable sacrifice. I owe what I am today to them. They would still do anything for me and my siblings.
I do believe what goes around comes around and I wonder how those who feel there is no problem with restrictions on visits by parents will react when and if they are faced with similar restrictions on visits by their children.
We're all happy for you that you have a relationship with your parents that is rewarding and mutually respectful. Not everyone's experience of life/family/anything is identical to yours. Get some perspective of GTFO.
Not the PP to whom you responded but you are an idiot. Of course people have different life/family experiences.
The point is that unless there are major issues with a parent such as abuse, etc it is ridiculous to impose constraints on a mother or parent who is lonely. People like you are pathetic. One does not put parents out to pasture when they have outlived their usefulness. What is so difficult to understand about something so basic?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My mother is dead. Can I have yours ? I would never be too busy for her.
Your mom being dead doesn't make the OP's mother any less rude.