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[quote=Anonymous]I think OP is probably not American (who thanks people on a birthday invitation?) so I'm hoping this isn't as bizarre as it sounds.

OP, my parents are divorced, and when I got married, my mother called my father and asked if/how he wanted to contribute to the wedding.  His response was that he would contribute nothing.  She asked who he wanted to invite, and he said nobody.  My mother and stepfather paid for about half of the costs, DH's parents contributed a small amount (their income was much lower) and DH and I paid for the rest.  On our invitations, we included my mom and stepdad's names, and DH's parents' names, as they were the ones giving the party and inviting the guests.  My father refused to come to our wedding because he was left off the invitation and said it meant we didn't want him there.

I don't think we did anything wrong, but I can see why his feelings were hurt, and looking back, I would have just put his name on it just to be equal.  You really have NO idea why your MIL is feeling hurt?  That is strange to me.  It would have been one thing to thank these relatives publically AT the party, but what you did is just... weird, and insensitive.  You need to call MIL yourself and apologize.[/quote]

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