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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am not weird about germs or possessive. I welcome any assistance and am grateful for it. The fact is that I don't like my MIL and her intense desire to hold the baby will not be of help or comfort to me. She will be in my way and I will have to excuse myself to breastfeed, nap, relax, etc. She will create more work for me. My husband and I can hold the baby...moreover so can any of about 10 other family members (DH's lovely father and stepmother included) who are also incredibly thoughtful, helpful people. I am just trying to figure out how to cope and maintain an even keel. I have a cordial, pleasant relationship with her that I turn the other cheek quite often to maintain but this will take a whole new level of management. [/quote]

Your MIL's desire to hold her newborn grandchild is totally understandable.  Her incessant reminders that she wants to hold the baby are her way of telling you that she is afraid that you won't give her the opportunity to do so.  She's anxious that she'll be shut out.

Please be kind to this woman and let her hold and help out with her grand baby. Remember that this baby is a part of her, too.  That doesn't mean that you have to hand the baby over to her - your the mom, but do let her share in the joy of her new grandchild.[/quote]

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