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[quote=Anonymous]As a former manager, I'd like to add a different perspective to this conversation.

1. OP, you seem to think your managers "love" you. Trust me, there is no way HR would be messing with you without their approval. Whatever they say to your face, managers (good ones anyway) know how to protect their employees. And in a case like this, where we are talking about a decision with some discretion, your managers will have a lot of say about the outcome.

2. Your problem is you. Some people have picked up on signs of entitlement. I'd like to phrase it another way. You have said that you simply don't care about your colleagues or the inconvenience to them, etc. <b>That you don't seem to care how your leave will affect your employer and colleagues IS your problem.</B> This doesn't mean your baby is not important, but in the real world when you want someone to do you a favor you don't sh*t on them first. Your career is going a lot further in the long run if you learn this lesson now. So, how have you tried to make this a win-win? Have you offered to do anything at all to help them manage the impact of your vacation and pregnancy leave (e.g., work from home, do half-time, train your replacement, etc.)? In four pages of posts I don't see anything here that shows that you have shown this employer any consideration. Have you even told them that you understand the strain this is going to put on them? Or has it been all me and my baby, like you have been here?

3. Your apparent willingness to "just resign" and your lack of interest in the job would make me doubt that you are someone to invest in and as your manager, I would not fight for you. Why should anyone go out of their way for you? You seem to have a very casual attitude about your work. In this economy there are ten people behind you who don't have that attitude. No matter how valuable you think you are, no one is replaceable.

Personally, I think you've played this whole thing all wrong from the start and that you've thrown away a lot of goodwill. If they hired you permanently after two years of temping they must have liked you at some point. Your attitude since then has surely not given them any faith in you. Trust, once lost, is very hard to restore.

In your shows I would ask for a meeting with HR and your managers. In that meeting I would come entirely clean about my bad attitude and lack of consideration. Just tell them you've had the pregnancy crazies. Then tell them how much you enjoy your job and how much more you have to offer them as an employee. (Now would be a good time to unveil any ideas you have on how you could do your job better or improve overall productivity.) Then tell them that you are available to work in August and September, but that there are certain dates when you have family here that you would like to have off if they can make it work. Then you have to hope they are kind people who are willing to give you a break despite you having given them every reason not to.

If that doesn't work I'd say you screwed the pooch. Resign and accept it. (Good luck with those references!) You may be better off as a SAHM anyway. It doesn't sound like you're going to want to work outside of the home after the baby is born anyway.[/quote]

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