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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you are horrible. You know what they are going through and all you care about is yourself.  You better learn to be more understanding and less judgmental before you have your child. I told my best friend (I was her maid of honor, etc.) that I was pregnant 4 months ago and haven't heard a word from her since. I know she is struggling with infertility so it hasn't bothered me one bit. I know she will come around when she is ready and I don't need any more attention.  Get over yourself.  You almost seem like you want to rub it in.[/quote]

I think the situation you're describing is odd.  Sure, your friend is struggling with infertility but she is also your best friend, and to just completely leave your life like that is really harsh.  I don't understand these extreme reactions from the person struggling from infertility.  Why the need to shut the pregnant person out of their life completely?  [/quote]
Get a grip!
If this poster is not bothered by her friend's reaction why are you?
I have a child, but struggled with multiple pregnancy losses and this was not my reaction...but I do UNDERSTAND how some struggling with infertility can react in this manner...
And if her friend has enough compassion, love, and understanding for her friend who is in a lot of pain...YEA for her...what a wonderful friend...and likely mother...
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Why is the compassion, love and understanding a one way street?

Just curious why you think it is incumbent on people who are fertile to walk on eggshells around people who aren't.  Do parents of special needs kids get to ignore the milestones of the children of their friends and relatives, say graduation from high school?  Aren't all of us grown-ups, and can we not find a balance?[/quote]
I never said it was a one-way street 
I SAID if this woman understood how her friend was behaving...and had compassion for it...why should it bother anyone else?
You may not understand and have those kinds of friendships...where people can give what they may not be getting at that moment...in that season...but some people can see beyond themselves and extend the grace and mercy they may not be getting at the moment...good for for that poster...what's it to you?[/quote]

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