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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I need to clarify:

OF COURSE IT WAS BITCHY!  I was not really asking for opinions on the previous comment because I KNEW it was bitchy.  I meant it as snark.  Now, I see it certainly didn't come off that way!

To clarify again:

Of course I am appreciative.  And I need to make it clear that MIL and I, although VERY different, do maintain a respectful relationship.  When I run errands, I ask her if she would like anything, I take her to run her own errands and often times, bring her home a cup of coffee, her favorite snacks, or her much loved sweet tea.  I'm not walking around her home with my head held high as if I'm better than her, but looking back at my previous posts.... it sure does sound that way.  But keep in mind, at those times when I posted, I was fresh off another incident that pushed me to log on to this site so I could get it all out.

Today, before she left, MIL asked me to lock the door behind her, and I said with a  silly smile and sarcastic tone "Sure 'Jonie,' I love you."  She turned around, looked right in my face, and in an even sweeter, funnier tone, said, "You can be a real bitch, you know that?"

We both laughed as she headed off.  Point is, we're just different. The only way to make my living situation better is to move out, which by the way, is much more of a reality thanks to the feedback I've received here!

Thanks to you all for the humbling yet honest comments.  Thanks especially to those of you who genuinely understand, because this experience has been far from positive.  But now, we are getting that one-bedroom. We'll get on our feet from there, because it will be better for everyone.

As for the comments on being "financially responsible,"  I don't know what kind of struggles you've had, but they obviously were either easily solvable or not as bad as you may think.  I don't know if you married into money, if your parents gave you money, or if you have genuinely done it on your own, but please don't be ignorant enough to believe that financial struggles come about as a result of being irresponsible.

My husband and I are both college educated and paying back student loans.  We have one vehicle that we bought and paid for and as young adults, and also as young adults, did not have a single person show us how do make good financial decisions.  Sadly, for us, its been all about trial and error.  We don't go out to eat, we don't shop unless we need socks or underwear, and we've had the same comforter on our bed for the last 10 years.  I'm saying all this to make it clear that the "you made your bed" style comments couldn't be more wrong.

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