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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We contribute $300.00 a month to my MIL on a monthly basis for over 6 years.  We also provided the downpayment for her house and split the cost with a BIL for her last used car.  I am sure that we will be undertaking at least one major renovation in her house in the next few years.  My DH has 4 siblings yet we are the only consistant contributors.  The house, although we made the downpayment and have made a few payments prior to the $300.00 a month contribution, is not in our name.  Frankly, I don't care.  My view is that the $300.00 a month payments will ease my conscious when his mother needs to live with someone and I say -[b] "Not here, we have done our part."[/b]
However, I was raised in a family where my mother and uncles all did a massive renovation of my grandmother's house, bought her several new cars, and currently pay for her live-in help (she is 95).  I was raised to be thankful that my MIL raised a man that I thought the world of - enough to marry.  I can not thank her enough for turning out such a wonderful son and I would not begrudge her in her later years of the "fruits" of her labor.  No we are not rich, we budget it in like a car payment.  I don't need lattes from Starbucks.  I am not going to let mercenary feeling regarding who gets what after someone dies or goes into a nursing home stop me from doing the right thing.[/quote]

So by your own admission your motive is not simply to help, but to arm yourself against future respnsibility for MIL?  It's good of you to help, surely, but in OP's situation one sibling is putting the MILs house in her name without discussing it with other siblings and brushing off questions about it.  That is not cricket and it is more than reasonable for PPs to question it, including myself.[/quote]

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