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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is your niece? Does she live with them full time? [/quote]

Hi, OP here. My niece is 9 years old.

I talked to my DH tonight about the issue. I asked him what he thinks about severing ties with them, and he said he thinks that's crazy. About them yelling at our DDs, he said that we need to say something to them like, "i know tou have rules here and we want to respect them and make sure our kids respect them, but we can't have [DD] crying 4 times in a 24-hr period because you guys yell at her...so let us handle it when they're breaking a rule...and if you see it first, instead of addressing it, tell one of us and we'll handle it."
He also said that maybe we'll just need to only see them when we all go to my mom's house - that way, they won't be calling the shots so much since it's not their turf. The problem with this is that we (both my family and my sister's family) almost never go to my parents', and even less often at the same time. I think the last time this happened was 2010. And I don't want to see my nephews and niece so infrequently.
About the racism, when DDs get older and it becomes an issue, DH said that we will just tell DDs that what my sister is doing is wrong.

PP above asked about my niece - she is with them one week day per week, as well as every other weekend.[/quote]
THANK GOD she is not with them every day..
i have an almost 9 yr old DD..and I know how sensitive she is....I feel so bad for her...try to keep open the lines of communication...let her know that she can talk to you...and that if anyone ever does anything that is uncomfortable, mean, etc....that she should tell her mom...
how is it that you don't know her mom...isn't this your brother's baby momma???[/quote]

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