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[quote=Anonymous]Thanks.  That was me and I meant to support 9:32.  I did miss-type it.  1994.

Could we please talk more about the shower problem.  This is a HUGE problem for us.  DS could stay in the shower for hours if we let him.  This started from the time that he began showering himself.  He goes in, we hear the water running, an hour later he will still be in there.  We talked to the shrink about it, therapists, looked in the high functioning Aspie books.  Bought timers. I've even purchased a gadget that was supposed to limit shower time to 10 minutes and then turn off but it wasn't compatible with our shower head.  I simply don't know what to do and DS is off to college next year and I'm very worried.

My husband thought the shower might feel comforting as did the "Squeezebox" for Temple Grandin.

But I would be grateful if the adult woman with Asperger's or the person with a son - both of whom touched on Asperger's and shower issues - would come back and tell us why it is that we cannot get our son out of the shower.  First hand experiences?  Suggestions?

Also DS cannot get ready for any event (dressed, hair washed, right hose, socks, shoes) on time.  Sunday church always ends up with us yelling up the stairs because we are running late.  When DS does show up, the hair is wet, the clothes are wrong, the socks are wrong, a belt is missing.  This happens every single time we have to go to an event.
DS is 18.  I really need help.  And, no, natural consequences, punishment, positive reinforcement and bribery doesn't work on Aspies.  Or at least not on mine.

Finally, we are at our wit's end about getting DS to school on time.  Although DS has a tutor and has learned to pack his bag the night before, DS always runs late to the bus.  Then we have to drive him to the second bus pickup.  We've repeatedly pointed out that if he just moved a little faster he would make the first bus.  It's only a 7 minute difference, but he cannot do it.  Also we cannot get him out of bed.  There are timers, bed-shakers.  Flashing light gadgets.  We have tried everything.  And, no, we are not helicopter parents or enabling him - we simply cannot get him  up and out the door.  And, yes, we've tried "tough love" telling him we weren't going to do this anymore.  The result is that he doesn't make it to school at all.  And he's a great, sweet kid.   He is not doing this on purpose.  He apologizes and says he doesn't know why he can't get out of bed, can't do the morning schedule 7 min. earlier so he can get out the door to the first bus, or why he has to stay in the shower for an hour.  I'm very very worried about college next year (yes, he has an IEP, has meds, and we're already in touch with the disabilities office at the college).

But can any Aspie or Aspie parent out there explain this - especially the shower issue - to us, because we just don't understand.  Thank you.[/quote]

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