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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's not ideal; but his level of effort sounds comparable to that of plenty of stay-at-home moms. Anyway, I'd say at least take the kids out of daycare until he decides he wants to work outside the home. [/quote]
Wow, really?  I always though SAH moms did a little more than shuttle kids to/from school and do grocery shopping.[/quote]

The great majority do, I'm sure. In our society, however, I think it's somewhat more acceptable for a wife to kind of dick around and not work very hard (assuming the family can afford it financially) than for a husband to do the same. If a woman doesn't have a job, shuttles the kids to school and back, and has a maid clean the house a couple times a week; she's generally not thought of as a loser even if she's not doing a whole lot more while the kids are in school than puttering about with her hobbies. I don't think that's the case when the genders are reversed. [/quote]

This is interesting although as FT working mom, I admit I don't have the highest opinion of moms who stay at home while the kids are in school and don't do anything.  If they volunteer and are actively involved in the kids' school, that would be different.  And here - OP has stated her income and that is NOT enough in this area for one spouse to stay at home.  I think if the roles were reversed (man made $100k, we would be equally critical of his SAH spouse who shuttled the kids to daycare and ran a few other errands).[/quote]

It may not be enough to live the DCUM Dream, but $100k HHI (with no massive student debt) will get you an older TH in Leesburg/Frederick, or a place out in Bowie -- all these places have public schools that are acceptable K-12. [/quote]

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