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[quote=Anonymous]OP, a few years ago I was unemployed for 2 years and was in a terrible, terrible black hole of depression.  I wasted most of my days.  If I went to the grocery store it DID feel like a huge accomplishment.  I'd be exhausted afterward.  I'd wonder where all the hours disappeared.

Reddit is a huge time suck and escape, as is DCUM.  He seriously may feel that his day is full because he's fighting righteous fights on the Internet.  Mental distortuons rule when you're clinically depressed.

What got me out of the hole was keeping a written account of how I spent every hour of every day.  Including sleep time.  I'd write down what I did that hour (sometimes half hour), rate from 1-10 how much I enjoyed the hour, and rate from 1-10 how much of a sense of accomplishment I got out of the hour.

4 months after starting this regimen, I had a job.  It was the quantifiable time that helped.  I could prove to myself that I quantifiably got more enjoyment and satisfaction out of an hour of cleaning the bathroom than out of an hour futzing around online.  It really helped my patient and supportive bf see how much I was trying, too, when I wrote stuff down.

Your DH might get a lot out of this, if he were only willing to try.  I have ADD as well, and it's SO easy to lose time.  [/quote]

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