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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am not going to snark you, I am not going to tell you you're a terrible mother or anything like that.  I am not going to judge you.

I am just going to say, as someone with severe self esteem issues of my own, that imposing any kind of self-dislike on your own children by trying to change them, is going to be far more damaging to them, for the rest of their lives, than not being blond ever will.

As parents, part of our job, is to teach our children that they're great.  Their initial self worth, their whole inner voice comes from us.  They are going to see themselves in the way that we see them, which they will learn by the way that we treat them.  You NEED to get over this for her sake.  I fear that she is only going to know that her appearance is "good enough" if she changes things about it, and that's not a good lesson for any child.  Especially one so young.  Her earliest memories should involve you telling her she's beautiful, not you changing things about her appearance.

I am seriously urging you to change this mindset.  She is a baby.  She is beautiful.  She is perfect just the way she is.  I am a happily married brunette, and blondes don't turn my husband's eyes, he's not having an affair with a blonde, and I have never been told "we can't go out because you're not blond".  Of all of the millions of things I'd love to change about myself, becoming a blonde is not one of them.

Don't make it something she wants to change about herself someday either.[/quote]

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