OP, I am not going to snark you, I am not going to tell you you're a terrible mother or anything like that. I am not going to judge you.

I am just going to say, as someone with severe self esteem issues of my own, that imposing any kind of self-dislike on your own children by trying to change them, is going to be far more damaging to them, for the rest of their lives, than not being blond ever will.

As parents, part of our job, is to teach our children that they're great. Their initial self worth, their whole inner voice comes from us. They are going to see themselves in the way that we see them, which they will learn by the way that we treat them. You NEED to get over this for her sake. I fear that she is only going to know that her appearance is "good enough" if she changes things about it, and that's not a good lesson for any child. Especially one so young. Her earliest memories should involve you telling her she's beautiful, not you changing things about her appearance.

I am seriously urging you to change this mindset. She is a baby. She is beautiful. She is perfect just the way she is. I am a happily married brunette, and blondes don't turn my husband's eyes, he's not having an affair with a blonde, and I have never been told "we can't go out because you're not blond". Of all of the millions of things I'd love to change about myself, becoming a blonde is not one of them.

Don't make it something she wants to change about herself someday either.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she is gorgeous. She has the biggest blue eyes I have ever seen on any child and looks like an absolute doll ( albeit a brown-haired doll). I am just worried about when she gets older and other kids/adults start judging based on looks. Nobody else worries about what their kid is going to look like?

You equate brunette with being unattractive?? What about Cindy Crawford, Eva Longoria, Linda Evangalista, Olivia Wilde to name a few. You think people are going to judge her for not being blonde?? You have SERIOUS image issues. I'm not even saying this to be snarky but you really do need to see a therapist so that you can work these issues out. The pressure you are going to put on your child to strive for your version of perfection is going to be unbearable for her if this is what you are doing to her as a baby.

I think those women are all stunning. However, I remember being in school, and none of the kids thought there was anything special about people with brown hair; blonds ruled. There is nothing I dislike about my daughter. I just don't want her to have a harder time in life because of the way she looks. I think that is natural to a certain extent, isn't it? I'm not talking about bleaching her skin FFS.

Honestly, I think that it's basically the same thing. I don't know where you grew up (FL or CA, perhaps?), but the whole "blondes have more fun" thing that you're going with, is simply not true. How about you look at successful women out there (Sheryl Sandberg, Nancy Pelosi, etc..., all not blonde) and try to hope that your daughter turns out like them and not like the bimbo cheerleader that you were in high school. Anyone who looks back at their school days as their glory days is just pathetic, IMO.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Also, don't worry about sunscreen, as it inhibits the matching tan. Fingers crossed, if you're really diligent, you might be able to train her early to incorporate a diet pepsi/cigarette breakfast to keep the weight down, too!

Good luck!

But be careful, you don't want to let her skin get TOO tan-- wouldn't want her to get treated like a darkie.

Anonymous wrote:Sadly, it is not an April fools. I was really hoping for a blonde baby and she ended up having brown hair with a teeny bit of natural blonde highlights. I love her the way she is, but would also love to see her hair looking a little sun-kissed.

If you aren't VERY careful, she will forever know she isn't what you wanted. That she 'doesn't look right.'

Seriously - don't do that to her.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you the mom who eats 500 calories a day?

Wow, I guess nothing is really anonymous.

So I guessed right? OP, you are crazy obsessed with looks and you are going to seriously screw up your daughter. Get help now!

Anonymous wrote:You don't want to turn your daughter into a fake blonde, do you?

Absolutely not. I do think it would be cute to see how she looks with lighter hair, but I guess that makes me a bad person so I should probably just stfu. I DO think she the most gorgeous thing on the planet, despite what many of you are suggesting.

Anonymous wrote:I think she is gorgeous. She has the biggest blue eyes I have ever seen on any child and looks like an absolute doll ( albeit a brown-haired doll). I am just worried about when she gets older and other kids/adults start judging based on looks. Nobody else worries about what their kid is going to look like?

No, most people think their children are beautiful from the beginning. If this is for real, then you have some serious vanity related issues. I think you should just go ahead and put your child in therapy right now. Poor kid.

I'm still hoping OP is a troll who just wants to keep the game going...

If not - OP, I don't know if you need counseling, but you need to get a life. PP who said this is the least significant way in which your daughter will defy your expectations is right.

And as far as your perception of the greater acceptance of blondes goes - I don't think that's true at all. If anything, the stereotype of the dumb blonde comes to mind. Not that there is any truth to that, at least not as far as real blondes go. You don't want to turn your daughter into a fake blonde, do you?

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Anonymous wrote:I think she is gorgeous. She has the biggest blue eyes I have ever seen on any child and looks like an absolute doll ( albeit a brown-haired doll). I am just worried about when she gets older and other kids/adults start judging based on looks. Nobody else worries about what their kid is going to look like?

You equate brunette with being unattractive?? What about Cindy Crawford, Eva Longoria, Linda Evangalista, Olivia Wilde to name a few. You think people are going to judge her for not being blonde?? You have SERIOUS image issues. I'm not even saying this to be snarky but you really do need to see a therapist so that you can work these issues out. The pressure you are going to put on your child to strive for your version of perfection is going to be unbearable for her if this is what you are doing to her as a baby.

And interestingly, Olivia Wilde is actually a natural blonde who chooses to be brunette. OP, can you believe someone would be so stupid?! Clearly no one will ever love her!

Anyone know where I can get my toddler's belly button pierced? Should I try to do it myself?

BTW, do any of you wax your DDs eyebrows? My little one has a unibrow if I don't.

Anonymous wrote:I think she is gorgeous. She has the biggest blue eyes I have ever seen on any child and looks like an absolute doll ( albeit a brown-haired doll). I am just worried about when she gets older and other kids/adults start judging based on looks. Nobody else worries about what their kid is going to look like?

I went from being a very blonde baby/toddler/kid to being a light brunette teen/adult. Also went from blue-eyed to green-eyed around the same time. I remember feeling a bit like I'd "lost" something. I was no longer the (in my mind) desired blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl. You know what? Dealing with what was my own stupid perception of what other people thought (newflash: they did not care) in a loving environment gave me character.

I love my dark brunette, grey-brown-eyed toddler more than anything and think she's beautiful. I have never for a second worried about her success in life based on her looks. I do worry about how my own perception of my and her looks will impact her, but that's about it.

My very kind brother told me that surveys showed that guys prefer brunettes anyway. Yeah - he's a sweetheart.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you the mom who eats 500 calories a day?

Wow, I guess nothing is really anonymous.

Anonymous wrote:I think she is gorgeous. She has the biggest blue eyes I have ever seen on any child and looks like an absolute doll ( albeit a brown-haired doll). I am just worried about when she gets older and other kids/adults start judging based on looks. Nobody else worries about what their kid is going to look like?

Sounds like you've gotten a good start on that.

I honestly can't believe this is serious. If it is I'm appalled and feel very sorry for your children.

If you're for real you are judging people, and pre-determining your children's future on the most shallow of characteristics. And on something that is beyond anyone's control (other than dye obviously). Your child will grow up thinking you think she is less attractive because she isn't blonde. It doesn't matter what anyone else says, she'll always know she doesn't measure up to your standard of beauty.

You are deciding that - not society. You are telling your child he/she is less attractive, less desirable, less worthy - because of the color of his/her hair. And you are already sending that message to your child. Before he/she can begin to understand the words, the child knows that you think they need their appearance altered to be more attractive.

This is your choice - don't pawn it off on society.

I find it utterly shameful and horrifying.

OP, are you the mom who eats 500 calories a day?