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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As MTV says on 16 & Pregnant - "Pregnancy is 100% preventable."  For any woman with half a brain (and I like to think that all of us have a whole brain), there is no need in the year 2013 to get pregnant when you don't want to. [/quote]

I imagine that victims of rape who end up pregnant would be happy to know they have "half a brain".  Also, sometimes birth control legitimately fails!!  That's obviously not what happened here, but no need to make extreme hyperbolic statements about women who may choose to have an abortion for whatever reason.  Do I disagree with using abortion as a form of birth control?  Yes.  Do I think that describes the majority of the women who have elective abortions?  No.  Does it mean that I don't think a woman who doesn't want to raise a child even one conceived through her own decision not to use birthcontrol isn't better off not carrying/raising that child?  No.  And have I ever made a dumb decision that could've/did had/have major, life-altering consequences?  Yes.

I say all of the above as someone who (though never had to make the choice) has always been adamantly pro-choice while also feeling it was not a moral decision I could make for myself.

As for OP, I think the whole point of an anonymous forum is to voice the things that you know are wrong and wouldn't say in public.  I assume that you really don't wish IF on your friend...but I also think it's understandable that you're having a hard time relating to her as a friend right now.  You're both going through difficult things that require support from those around you; it doesn't sound like either of you is in a good place to be able to support the other right now.  Do I occasionally hope not to hear that another friend is announcing her pregnancy?  In the abstract, yes.  In the concrete, no.  A friend whose wedding I missed last year due to a m/c just told me she was pregnant.  I knew she'd been trying since soon after getting married, and she was starting to worry it was taking several months.  She was nervous to tell me (and waited to tell anyone until 12 weeks), and she was a little surprised that I went out of my way to tell her I was really happy for her.  But I am.  Just a little sad for myself to have another milestone marking our lack of success :([/quote]

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