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[quote=Anonymous]Op, some men are MUCH worse and many women are very chill. You will eventually learn this. Everyone thinks they themselves are the cool and kind, if not always inclusive. They will become frustrated or judgmental about somebody and feel the need to spread some judgment/gossip for entertainment, as a way to feign concern, boredom, inner need to inform or because they are simply pissed/jealous/judgy at someone and feel justified to do so.

I think we've all read enough cruel/racist/sexist/ablist posts here to know cruel people exist in parenting communities and they take some pleasure in making others feel bad. It boosts their spirit to bring others down whether behind their back or to their face with snide comments while pretending they are innocent of causing strife. We all may have been guilty of this at least once without ever remembering such behavior. Ethics, as seen in many posts, vary wildly and those with higher moral standards are dragged as autistic black and white thinkers.

There is a defensiveness of you are too black and white or "not everyone needs to be liked and included" as the backlash statement to any social issue, even if the complaint is not about someone wanting to be included but simply not wanting lies or aggression directed at them.

I used to think everyone in our community was easy and we all wanted the best for all the kids, especially in elementary. I still think most of us are like this but I have learned some few are not and some good people have lapses in judgment that hurt others.

Communities are different, schools are different and classes are too so you may end up with a good one or an intolerable one and some people roll and thrive with the gossip and see it as normal life while others see it as an extreme affront to another person's character. Most of us are in the middle. I can't believe all these posters who are blind to bad behaviors have not even had a relative or friend from another community share some story of rude or bad behavior towards other parents. Go read posts about hate towards boys, girls, special needs, kids who are at the top and those at the bottom. Some people cannot handle variety.[/quote]

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