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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was worried people were going to tell me I'm terrible. I'm so glad to have found some kindred spirits.

I think I've spent my whole life feeling like I'm supposed to be social, make friends, go out, etc. I turn 50 soon and I think I've just realized it is not what makes me happy. I have always been a fan of Mary Oliver's poetry and recently I've been thinking a lot about her lifestyle, which involved a lot of solitude, time in nature, and just focusing on her work which necessitated being alone a lot.  She had a partner for over 40 years so she wasn't totally alone, and certainly she worked with others at times and had friends, but it sounds like she was mostly just a solitary person.

I think that is the truest representation of what I want. It does not feel possible now with my kid the age she is, but I'd like to start working towards it.[/quote]

Do you at least have a small circle to keep you grounded in reality a little, and as a safety net for emergencies? As in, a sister plus one close friend? Two cousins you’re close with?

I’ve noticed that some people, [b]as they start to do this - usually in retirement- they very quickly decline mentally[/b]. I think they inadvertently make things a lot harder for themselves by so drastically limiting their interactions with others. [/quote]

This is my fear. Lots of scare-media about loneliness being the health equivalent of two packs of cigarettes a day or whatever. [/quote]

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