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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Woof I left my husband and divorce was finalized this year. His Involved Husband act…I just couldn’t handle any more. His favorite phrase “I’m not a mind reader, you just need to ask me when you need help.” Meanwhile, laundry is overflowing, dishes in the sink, I’m getting everything done for the kids etc etc. 
honestly we had the income to outsource a lot of that stuff but it killed the attraction so much it was hard to sleep with him. 
Whether divorcing was a good idea- who knows. He’s a man who makes six figures and has yet to pay for anything substantial for the kids since our separation. Kind of proves my point. Major underperformer, major turnoff. 
For the record we did counseling at least 3 times during our 15 year relationship (10 married). I don’t think it helped I think it just kicked the can down the road. I wish I had left earlier. [/quote]

Let me guess, you did everything then you announced you did everything, then saw a bunch of Instagram posts about how you’re carrying everything while he just skips along.

After some more Instagram accounts thought you how you were able to drop your husband into a framework of a man who was weaponizing his incompetence?

You talk about his income but don’t mention your own, so maybe he didn’t talk about how he rolled around and bed all night wondering how he was going to provide for retirement for both of you, fund college, make sure you had a closet full of unused exercise clothes etc.  The man you’re demonizing here likely thought you were a team until you decided that you weren’t.  
You’re insecurity about your own place in the world allowed you to browbeat him for his contribution to the house which was substantial, he didn’t begrudge you taking huge amounts of time to do something a busy person could’ve knocked out in 20 minutes.

You’ll be fine someday and so will he but don’t pretend that you divorced him because you do everything and he just wouldn’t help, you decided to be a martyr instead of digging in and being part of a team. I bet you love telling everyone how hard it is to be a single mom.

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