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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Woof I left my husband and divorce was finalized this year. His Involved Husband act…I just couldn’t handle any more. His favorite phrase “I’m not a mind reader, you just need to ask me when you need help.” Meanwhile, laundry is overflowing, dishes in the sink, I’m getting everything done for the kids etc etc. 
honestly we had the income to outsource a lot of that stuff but it killed the attraction so much it was hard to sleep with him. 
Whether divorcing was a good idea- who knows. He’s a man who makes six figures and has yet to pay for anything substantial for the kids since our separation. Kind of proves my point. Major underperformer, major turnoff. 
For the record we did counseling at least 3 times during our 15 year relationship (10 married). I don’t think it helped I think it just kicked the can down the road. I wish I had left earlier. [/quote]

Did you ever make a detailed objective honest list of all contributions made by both of you to the family, the time and energy required to.do them, and tried to quantify the value of what each of you were contributing?

Undoubtedly you do not.  Because no one who ever makes these complaints ever does.

That would force you to actually have to explain and justify the time  and energy and money you were spending on each item and him as well.  You get zero credit for posting stuff on social media.

You then admit you didn't want to sleep with him because outsourcing mundane household tasks killed your desire to have sex with him.  Yeah sure.

Even though you could easily afford it.

You decided to make yourself unhappy and the destroyed your own marriage over it.

I'm assuming  you weren't cheating on him but nowadays that's fairly likely to have been the case and of course if so is all his fault as well.[/quote]

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