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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another thought.  Give them back their energy.  Don't do everything for them.   Father's Day?  What Father's Day?[/quote]

DP.  I did this once for Father’s Day.  I wasn’t being passive aggressive.  He had literally told me multiple times that he doesn’t care about these holidays or understand why people celebrate them.  My own parents were out of town, and I was busy with other things, so I didn’t do anything.  I figured that he didn’t care anyway, so what was the point?

He told me later that night that it was actually kind of hard on him that we didn’t do anything.  That he didn’t feel sad exactly, but he felt kind of empty inside and a little disappointed.  He has made sure to acknowledge Mother’s Day and my birthday every year since then.

I’m not sure if it would have worked out that way if it had been passive aggressive or I was angry with him.  He probably would have acted like he didn’t care.  It’s hard to be vulnerable with someone who is mad at you.

So I don’t know, maybe just do something for your dad on Father’s Day and see how it works out.  Maybe your husband will be relieved, and you don’t have to worry about it anymore.  Maybe he will feel sad and empathize with how you feel.  At least you will know where things stand.  [/quote]

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