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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]240 guests, $38k, 26 years ago

Zero regrets, it was a fun, fabulous weekend (rehearsal dinner, wedding, Sunday brunch).  We have $100k earmarked for each of our kids weddings (1 boy, 1 girl), they are 20 and 23. If they don't want a big wedding, they can use it for a honeymoon or down-payment for a house[/quote]

I hope they put it towards a house otherwise they will need help from the National Bank of Momanddad.[/quote]

Well, I don't know about that, but I will say this:  it's weird and presumptuous to assume that your kids--especially ones who are only 20 and 23--are ever going to want to get married in the first place, then again want a big wedding.  [/quote]

Meh. For a lot of people, if you want to be ready to pay for something this substantial, you have to plan ahead and save. Not unlike college. I don't think there's anything wrong with hoping your kids will get married. This used to be the normal way of things.[/quote]

Yea, they're is.  "Hoping" your kids will get married imposes your world view on them and applies pressure, whether spoken or not.  Your only "hope" should be that they are happy in whatever they choose to do.  As for saving, you don't need to save for any particular purpose.  You just save for security's sake.

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There is nothing wrong with hoping for anything for your child.[b] It's basically a sort of day dreaming that does not affect anyone at all.[/b] Very odd to police your own thoughts.[/quote]

"Hoping" for a wedding, especially to the extent of putting 6 figures aside for it, actually does affect people -- it's a very large financial action taken in connection with and in support of outdated/dying patriarchal thinking. [/quote]

Wtf. You people sound like you aren’t close to your kids. I’m still saving for college for my teens but once I’ve cleared that hurdle, I’ll happily start saving for a wedding. And I’ll tell my kids that I’m doing it. And if they choose not to get married, I’ll still love them just as much as if they do. My love is unconditional but weddings are expensive AF and I think they will be thrilled to know that if that day comes that we have something saved to help.[/quote]

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