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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How hard is it for parents to understand teachers need a recess break too. They need to go to the bathroom, grab a snack, and prep for next lesson.

This is why an email like this is annoying:

[i]Me: Hi, Larla has been having issues with Marla at recess -- Marla keeps pressuring Larla to play a physical game that Larla doesn't want to play and Larla has asked many times for Marla to leaver her out of it but Marla isn't getting the message. Can you check on them and just make sure Marla understands that if Larla says no, she needs to observe that boundary?[/I]

First, no the teacher is not going to give up recess to go watch your child.

Secondly, so what if a student is telling another student to play a game she doesn't want to play?  Tell your kid to walk away and there won't be an issue. Instead she keeps hanging around the kid you don't want her around. How can you not see how ridiculous it would be for a teacher to go up to another kid and put all the blame on that kid. It sounds more like kids are playing and your kid doesn't like what they are playing so wants to play something else. Nowhere in your email is your child being teased, hit/pushed, excluded, etc. This is why your emails aren't going anywhere and the teacher finds them annoying.  
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Lol no one is asking a teacher to "give up their recess" to watch a child. Recess is a supervised activity at school -- the teachers are required to watch the kids so they don't do something stupid. They might do it on a rotating schedule so teachers get breaks but supervising recess is already a part of most teacher's jobs.

Also, if the solution to a solution like the above is to tell the child to walk away, a parent can say that at home but is not present at school and doesn't know if it's happening or not. So the point of emailing a teacher about that would be specifically to get on the same page so both parent and teacher can reinforce the same issue. No one suggested the solution was to go up and "put all the blame on the other kid." The solution is to discourage those two kids from playing together and keep an eye out in case there is in fact teasing, hitting, pushing, or other escalating behavior happening under the radar.

This is a normal issue for someone to contact a teacher about. This is exactly the kind of dynamic that often leads to physical altercations so it's great to get it on the teacher's radar early before it escalates. I'd want to know.[/quote]

You sound insane and no this is not normal.  While the teachers may have to rotate supervising recess- they aren’t monitoring all the social interactions between kids.  You kid’s inability to tell another kid no and walk away is something you can take your kid to therapy for.  Nothing you have described warrants teacher intervention at all[/quote]

Are you even a teacher? If a situation is bad enough that you recommend a parent take a child to therapy to address it, then it is certainly serious enough to inform a teacher of. No one is suggesting a teacher monitor every social interaction.[/quote]

Therapy is suggested because your child should be able to say no they don’t want to play a game and go somewhere else.  The other kid isn’t forcing her to participate, nothing bad is happening to her.  She is playing a game.  If she doesn’t want to she goes and finds something else to do.  There is nothing for the teacher to do here.  You really think the teacher should interrupt a game when there are no signs of distress or anything out the ordinary happening order to ask your child if they “really” want to be playing? Your kid needs to learn to say no if she doesn’t want to do something and go find something she does want to do- this is an age appropriate social skill and if your kid can’t do this, then perhaps therapy.  But again, this is not an issue for the teacher to get involved in. [/quote]

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