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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter’s really feeling down right now. She’s been waitlisted or rejected her top-choice schools, and it hurts. She feels angry and like a failure who worked so hard for nothing and is worried her future won’t look the same. She’s been sad, worried, and crying a lot. We’re not sure how to help her through this or what to do next. [/quote]

Which schools was she waitlisted from? Some of them move. Work with your school-based counselor to develop a strategy for the best opportunity and let that school know in no uncertain terms that you will enroll if offered a spot. Hang in there![/quote]
She doesn’t feel very hopeful. She was waitlisted at JHU, Duke, UVA, Harvard, Yale, and UPenn.[/quote]

Wow, being WL at any one of these schools is a sign that your DD was extremely competitive among the applicant pool.  What is at the top of the ones where she was accepted?[/quote]

Cornell
Northwestern
Dartmouth
Umich
Brown
Vanderbilt & more[/quote]

Ok.  Thanks for telling us you are a troll.  [/quote]

I’m not a troll. I posted yesterday  about Vanderbilt. My daughter is so upset, and is having a hard time. She feels very dissatisfied.[/quote]

You are not supposed to start a new thread with the same topic. You are supposed to return to the original thread with and say: Update.

Look, OP. If you are not a troll: I[b]t is fine to let kids be disappointed for a day but you need to intervene. Maybe she needs therapy.[/b] Maybe she needs to do a day of community service or hard labor. Maybe she needs a time out. Someone who is so disappointed about acceptance into multiple ivies plus Northwestern and others is going to have serious problems in life. Help her get used to not getting exactly every little thing she wants just as she wants it. I am not being mean. She will have major problems in college and beyond if you don't deal with this.[/quote]

Is this a joke?

Do you genuinely think someone should "get over" their disappointment in a single day?

And that if they don't, something's so wrong that a therapist needs to be involved?

Think of the biggest disappointment in your life. The thing that made you the saddest you'd ever been at that stage in your life. Forget about whether anyone else would have been sad or disappointed in that situation. Just think back and remember your feelings. Maybe that will help you find empathy for someone else in pain.

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No joke. Kid can attend Northwestern, Dartmouth, Cornell, Vanderbilt... I can't even remember the surplus of incredible schools and yet is apparently so distraught that her mother has started not one but TWO threads on how to help her. This kid has unrealistic expectations about life if these results are so difficult.[/quote]

Adding. This is from OP's original post: she feels angry and like a failure who worked so hard for nothing and is worried her future won’t look the same

This is a kid who was accepted to Brown, Dartmouth, Cornell, Northwestern, Michigan and Vanderbilt.

OP needs to help her understands that life does not work out exactly as you plan. And maybe help her start a gratitude journal.[/quote]

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