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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter’s really feeling down right now. She’s been waitlisted or rejected her top-choice schools, and it hurts. She feels angry and like a failure who worked so hard for nothing and is worried her future won’t look the same. She’s been sad, worried, and crying a lot. We’re not sure how to help her through this or what to do next. [/quote]

Which schools was she waitlisted from? Some of them move. Work with your school-based counselor to develop a strategy for the best opportunity and let that school know in no uncertain terms that you will enroll if offered a spot. Hang in there![/quote]
She doesn’t feel very hopeful. She was waitlisted at JHU, Duke, UVA, Harvard, Yale, and UPenn.[/quote]

Wow, being WL at any one of these schools is a sign that your DD was extremely competitive among the applicant pool.  What is at the top of the ones where she was accepted?[/quote]

Cornell
Northwestern
Dartmouth
Umich
Brown
Vanderbilt & more[/quote]

Ok.  Thanks for telling us you are a troll.  [/quote]

I’m not a troll. I posted yesterday  about Vanderbilt. My daughter is so upset, and is having a hard time. She feels very dissatisfied.[/quote]

You are not modeling healthy coping strategies. She needs to go to admitted students days and pick the one that suits her best. [/quote]

The absolute best remedy here will be choosing a different school and falling in love with it bit by bit.

If your DD is overwhelmed by her feelings and not capable of picking two or three of those schools to visit this coming month, you can do it for her. Consider it an act of love that takes that burden off of her at a time when she's not capable of thinking about it.

All of the options are great. So just choose the two or three finalists. Book trips for admitted students day. Sign her up for all the events and then set her free.

By May 1st, I guarantee she will choose one. Because she has to. And then little by little, she'll adjust to the fact that it is her chosen school.

If you want advice about WHICH 2-3 of those schools to choose, start a new thread titled "Help Me Help DD Narrow Down Her Options." Tell us everything you can about your DD - her choice of major, her personality, what she most values in a college (i.e. why did she love the schools she's now so disappointed about), what she hopes to do in college (research in a particular area? particular clubs? explore a city vs. a little off campus time in a suburb vs. rural etc.) You'll get some haters (obviously) but maybe we can help.

Or . . . don't laugh . . . feed it all into ChatGPT and ask for advice. Again, tell them everything you can about your DD and/or feed in her essays for the various schools. Then ask it how to go about choosing the top 2-3 options to visit. Keep asking questions like you're talking to an expert. See what you get back. Maybe it'll be helpful, maybe not. But I guarantee you'll learn a lot! You might encourage your DD to do the same, as well.[/quote]

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