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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our trip is to Italy, half vacation/half visiting relatives. She doesn’t want to go Italy, and wants to go to the Hawaii, or somewhere else, but it isn’t her choice. There isn’t anyone available for her to stay with. OP[/quote]

OP I cannot believe this is a serious question. Hopefully you're just packing and stressed and taking a break on DCUM to ask this.

The idea that a 14 YO could be allowed to disrupt a family vacation like this blows my mind.

If she doesn't want to pack, tell her that you're going to pack for her and she'd better hope she likes what you decide on, because there are no purchases there.

If she doesn't want to get in the cab/ car tomorrow, you pick her up and put her in. If she screams, you ignore her.

Who runs the show at your house?[/quote]

To be fair to OP, she did say she already took away privileges which I assume means her phone and screen time. Everyone here is all hard ass when they type their responses, but in terms of actionable advice, what happens when she physically puts her DD in the car, and then they get to the airport and she screams bloody murder? They could get denied entrance or kicked off the flight. So IMO it's actually a fair question. Do you make the attempt to go and risk the whole family getting kicked out or do you find last minute arrangements for the DD and punish her severely?[/quote]
If I really thought there was a chance she'd straight up pitch a fit like that, I'd line up (bribe) emergency child care, who was on board with grounding her that week.  And I'd tell her that not only was she not going to Hawaii, she wasn't going anywhere.  Her phone and any other devices would be locked up.  And she wouldn't get that phone back for at least a month, probably longer, and she wouldn't have any spending money, and she would be full-on grounded.  That kind of behavior is absolutely unacceptable.  [/quote]

I would sell her phone to pay for the wasted ticket.  And buy her a flip phone at most if she needed one for safety.  Until she goes to college.  (Not “a month.”). She doesn’t “need” a phone and she clearly doesn’t deserve one either.  [/quote]

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