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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have very similar fathers, OP. I’m his only biological child, daughter of his second marriage of three, and he has a wake of cut off relationships including his mother, his sister, multiple cousins, and me. It was one of those cousins who helped me accept this is who he is. He is a selfish man who is capable of inflicting great damage and feels no sense of responsibility. He’s never going to change. He’s been doing this his whole life.

That said, I would go, but I wouldn’t bring my family unless they wanted to come and you’re confident they’ll be treated well. Why? Well, here is how things have ended up for my father. He has Alzheimer’s. His wife spent years facilitating his isolation (he said yes to that), and now he’s stuck away in a facility with no one to watch over him.

It’s sad, but I can say I never gave him a reason. I was always respectful and I always left the door open. I will always love him but I am free from guilt and resentment. At some point I will learn that he’s died alone. I know that it will hurt but I also know I have no control and therefore no responsibility. [/quote]

OP here. Thank you for sharing this. I really appreciate it. I take inspiration in your ability to find peace in this difficult situation. Hugs.[/quote]
You’re welcome, OP. You seem lovely and levelheaded. I am sure you will find your own way to a peace that makes sense for you.[/quote]

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