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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]39 year old recently started dating a 48 year old man. He married a woman in his early thirties who already had two little kids and helped raise them and provide for them financially. His ex wife and him did not get along as she developed alcoholism and they are now divorced.

He lives in a small rental apartment and has a decent job in the policy sector in dc.  We have not discussed finances but I presume he makes something like 130k.

While we have great chemistry and enjoy each others company I wonder if he would be ready to try to have a biological child now, if we were to get serious and head down that path. I also wonder if he can afford to have a family. I make 150k and don’t really want to marry someone who makes less than me.

What would you advise? [/quote]

what does money has to do with you having kids with this guy? He makes decent money too so what's the concern here. [/quote]

Of course it has to do with having kids. First, he’s old and procreating with him causes higher autism risk for offspring
Second, at least 25-30% of his income will be going towards his kids from prior marriage. 
Third, this makes OP the breadwinner in future marriage plus she would have to be pregnant, birth kids and provide critical care to them while kids are young. 
Forth, it creates a bad dynamic in the relationship ripe for future conflicts.
Lastly, a joint income of $200k doesn’t buy much in DMV.

OP is younger and can find a man without kids [/quote]

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