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[quote=Anonymous]We are already planning because we want our kids to stay close in adulthood and not end up estranged and we our kids to enjoy visiting us in our old age.

What are we doing now in our 50s? We declutter several times a year and will be moving in the next few years to downsize. We want at least one bedroom on main level in case either of us need a surgery and can't do steps. It will also be a walkable area.

In our 60s we plan to start researching CCRCs and will explore whether we plan to do that or set up a case management system to age in place. By 70, we will at the very least have a case manager who knows any health issues and can either help us figure out the right setting or help us get the help we needed when needed.

Regarding finances, we will likely have things managed by a lawyer or accountant. I have lived closing an estate and it is miserable and no I didn't pay myself because it would have made things worse with my bat shit crazy and paranoid sibling.

For me, I will be meeting with a neurologist at least yearly starting by 70. Dementia is on both sides and one parent became incredibly abusive. She had those tendencies before, everyone assures me I am nothing like she was before it got really bad (she just lost the good qualities), but I will want to track things and if this turns out to be some sort of genetic-turn into a monster thing, then I need to find out more about the sweet spot where you are allowed the right to die with dignity and crossing over to when you are no longer allowed to make that decision.
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