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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am just an uptight person and I don't think I'll ever be anything different. [b]I can tell it annoys other people (or even just amuses them) sometimes, and keeps them from liking me more. [/b]Heck, it annoys me. I want to be more go with the flow but I just cannot. I have done therapy, taken SSRIs for anxiety, I do yoga and exercise, I even meditate. All this stuff helps but it doesn't change my personality. [b]Even when my anxiety is in check, I'm still just more uptight than other people.[/b]

Not really asking a question here, just venting. I envy those of you who are just chill and easy going and don't feel like you have to be hyper vigilant about everything all the time. I wish I was not alway working through my anxious feelings (even successfully) and that instead I just... didn't get them. But I'm nearing 50 and I've always been this way. I guess it's just who I am.[/quote]

Can you give some examples of how this affects those around you? I understand YOU wanting to feel less uptight, and I'm wondering if an answer would both help you and make others less annoyed?

I have a friend who is uptight about some things (but, for example, always late to everything!) so the contrast is what annoys me. She will lecture me for 20 minutes about an item found in my recycling bin that actually shouldn't be in there but she can't show up on time for lunch. If she was uptight about everything honestly I think it would be easier to deal with, but I don't know.

I'm pretty Type A myself, but I don't know which aspects of that would bother people. One thing I can think of is I am a hyper-planner/organizer and I like to get things down and set and I know that annoys some people who would rather just see how things unfold (and then end up hungry because they didn't think ahead of time to get food for the Super Bowl party...). But generally I don't impose my neuroses on others (i.e. I will always put the milk back in the fridge facing forward but I won't get mad if you don't).[/quote]

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