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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you can, OP, I would recommend trying to find mechanisms to cope with this, lessen it. I am in the process of doing the same, and it isn't easy. I am now in my 60s. Type A, not chill has helped me in so many ways in life. I am the fixer, if you will. But now that I am at a stage of no one needing me to fix things, all my chill friends who I have always been there for, aren't there for me now that I could use some help. I understand that this isn't their responsibility. But it has been a shock to understand that having always taken care of myself and others, that in hindsight those people always, basically, just took from me. And when I no longer can help them with their careers or kids or money or whatever it is, I'm just irritating.

I am realizing I am depressed at this point. And I woke up today deciding I will look into anti-depressants. So finding your post first thing this morning feels like a sign that I have to do something different to solve this.  [/quote]

As a PP stated up thread. Chill people aren't on alert and are surprised when things go sideways. I would contend a Chill person doesn't have the skill set to help you solve your problems. Which, as you said, is not their job anyway. As a result, there is no motivation to help, but are happy to receive it when they are "surprised" but something occurring in their lives.[/quote]

Example A of being judgmental and condescending. [/quote]

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